There is a book written by Gary Chapman - The 5 love languages... it tells you how to speak your spouse's love language.
This is the first time i heard of it, told by my fren - Alvina.
The 5 love languages is...
1) Speech
2) Physical Touch
3) Service (like doing housework for you)
4) Gift
5) Quality Time
Which you prefer your spouse to clock his/her hours to. Do make a point to tell him.
I will now start to think.
http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/